Standing up against bullying

By: Courtney Bachar, Local Journalism Initiative Reporter,
Source: The Oshawa Express
In honour of National Pink Shirt Day, a local author who wrote a book on anti-bullying wants to remind victims they are not alone and that it’s okay to speak out.
Growing up in Oshawa, Ryan Doyle, now 33, was bullied badly, which he says defined his future in a positive way.
“Because I successfully overcame bullying, I felt the need to try to  help other victims try to overcome bullying as well,” he says.
That’s when he decided to write his book, Tears of Loneliness: The Angel Within, which was published in March 2016.
A partial memoir, Doyle writes of his personal experiences involving  bullying, followed by a self-help section which provides victims of  bullying with effective coping strategies that can help them to overcome bullying.
“Through my experiences and being able to overcome bullying in my own life, I’m able to help other victims realize they’re not alone and it can help victims realize that there is hope.”
Doyle says Pink Shirt Day, which is celebrated on Feb. 24, is an  excellent initiative that can help victims, noting he will be wearing  his pink shirt proudly.
For those who are currently experiencing bullying, Doyle says he  wants them to know they are not alone and that it’s about finding a way, although difficult, to not allow the words and actions of others to bother them in any way.
“Sometimes what it’s really about is loving and believing in  themselves and realizing that people who are victims are not the  problem, but that it’s the bullies in the world that need to change  their ways. It’s not the victims that are in need of changing,” he says.
To the bullies, Doyle says it’s time to change.
“I think they do it because something in their life is making them  unhappy. It’s about realizing that and finding effective coping  strategies for dealing with it as opposed to taking it out on other  victims,” he continues.
He says bullies need to look into their victim’s eyes and see the suffering that victim is going through.
“Maybe if they can have some empathy for the victims they’re  victimizing, maybe they can making those changes in their life,” he  adds.
Looking ahead, Doyle has started working on his second book on  anti-bullying and how former victims can develop an optimistic future for themselves.
For now, he says he hopes his book will continue to help other victims.
Doyle’s book, Tears of Loneliness: The Angel Within, can be found on Amazon.